There are various ways to find out exactly the kind of person you are or the kind of people you deal with. One of the easiest ways is to know your immediate reaction to situations. It’s just like carrying out a study on malaria symptoms. In order to know how a patient would react to the malaria disease, he must be a malaria patient first. You don’t know how you would react to particular situations until you’re in one yourself.
Like phones and many other electronic gadgets, we as humans also have a ‘default setting’. This simply means that action we take or that attitude we go back to whenever we’re faced with challenging situations. It’s usually the first thing that comes to our mind to do even before the option of a second thought becomes visible.
Our reaction to situations is often influenced by our emotional and mental states. Our actions are sometimes so reflex that over time, they become a part of us without our knowledge. It’s at this point that such actions become our default actions when faced with similar situations.
Understanding ourselves better is really important, especially if success in life, business and relationships is our main goal. It helps us know which emotions to suppress and which ones to build. Living a life governed by negative emotions only makes us do actions which we would only regret later.
Listed below are a few situations which we, at one time have found ourselves in.
1. When faced with a challenge, do you see it as outside your scope, or as an opportunity to learn something new? Seeing it as outside your scope only means that you’re saying, ‘I can’t do it’.
2. When you’re offended, do you DESTROY or do you chill out and think? When I say ‘destroy’, I don’t really mean the things around you but that relationship you have with your ‘offender’. This used to be my default action until I realized that I had broken more relationships than I had at the time.
3. When you fail, do you give up and stay down or do you try to get back up? Giving up makes you a quitter and in the future, you’ll end up blaming others for your failure, forgetting that you’re the major cause. This is one of the major ‘symptoms’ of negative emotions- refusing to accept responsibility.
These are just a few of the many circumstances that help us define and restructure our attitudes.
If you realize that keeping or restoring default settings would only make things worse, then activate the new ones. You’ll be better that way.
Do you think it’s possible to completely change your default setting? What default action do you regret and how did you rid yourself of it? I’d love to hear your comments.