Oct
31

What’s Your Default Setting?

“Belief creates the actual fact. The greatest revolution of my generation is the discovery that individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”
- Anonymous

There are various ways to find out exactly the kind of person you are or the kind of people you deal with. One of the easiest ways is to know your immediate reaction to situations. It’s just like carrying out a study on malaria symptoms. In order to know how a patient would react to the malaria disease, he must be a malaria patient first. You don’t know how you would react to particular situations until you’re in one yourself.

Like phones and many other electronic gadgets, we as humans also have a ‘default setting’. This simply means that action we take or that attitude we go back to whenever we’re faced with challenging situations. It’s usually the first thing that comes to our mind to do even before the option of a second thought becomes visible.

Our reaction to situations is often influenced by our emotional and mental states. Our actions are sometimes so reflex that over time, they become a part of us without our knowledge. It’s at this point that such actions become our default actions when faced with similar situations.

Understanding ourselves better is really important, especially if success in life, business and relationships is our main goal. It helps us know which emotions to suppress and which ones to build. Living a life governed by negative emotions only makes us do actions which we would only regret later.
Listed below are a few situations which we, at one time have found ourselves in.

1. When faced with a challenge, do you see it as outside your scope, or as an opportunity to learn something new? Seeing it as outside your scope only means that you’re saying, ‘I can’t do it’.

2. When you’re offended, do you DESTROY or do you chill out and think? When I say ‘destroy’, I don’t really mean the things around you but that relationship you have with your ‘offender’. This used to be my default action until I realized that I had broken more relationships than I had at the time.

3. When you fail, do you give up and stay down or do you try to get back up? Giving up makes you a quitter and in the future, you’ll end up blaming others for your failure, forgetting that you’re the major cause. This is one of the major ‘symptoms’ of negative emotions- refusing to accept responsibility.

These are just a few of the many circumstances that help us define and restructure our attitudes.
If you realize that keeping or restoring default settings would only make things worse, then activate the new ones. You’ll be better that way.

Do you think it’s possible to completely change your default setting? What default action do you regret and how did you rid yourself of it? I’d love to hear your comments.

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Ebooks you might want to check out:
Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Power, Purpose and Service

Oct
21

Think, Attract and Become

“The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to belief that it is possible.”
-Richard Devos

Do you know that you can actually become what you don’t want to be? No matter how strange it sounds, it’s true. In my post; why you don’t get what you want, I gave a few reasons why most of us get disappointed and how hard it is to let go of such. It’s not just about thinking, but having the thought about what you want at the top of your mind. It’s good to live by the day, but don’t let nature do all the thinking for you.

To most of us, the terms ‘luck’ and ‘coincidence’ are not new. “You’re either lucky or you’re not” – how true is this? I’ve often wondered whether these terms exist or they were just given these names because we as humans don’t know how they occur.

Everything that happens to you is as a result of your thinking and your state of mind. Most of us would know the saying, “luck is when preparation meets opportunity.” When you get that thing you’ve always wanted, would you say you were lucky getting it or that you deserved it?

There’s something I heard over the radio recently which I would share with you in this post. It sounded strange at first and I felt like giving the presenter a piece of my mind. But on second thought, it was true. It completely shows that nothing happens by chance.

Whenever we think of something over a period of time, that thought becomes predominant in our minds. In the physical, it appears as if nothing happens but in the ‘other realm’, a process starts. That thought becomes like an attractive light and it does only one thing- it looks for ways to satisfy its host who in this case is you.

This is just like the superconscious mind acting on what you have in your subconscious mind. That concept simply means two things;

1. The more you think about something, the more you give that attractive light something to look for. This in turn gives that light more eagerness to find it. Sometimes when I think of someone whom I haven’t contacted for some time, it so happens that in a matter of minutes or hours he’s standing in front of me and we’re shaking hands. I’m sure this occurrence isn’t new to you too.

2. You can either think your way to success or failure. The more I think about how bad I am at something, the worse I get. This is often caused by the presence of negative emotions. By thinking more about how good you can be rather than how bad you are, you give that attractive force something positive to look for.

You may not have a business to call your own, but you do know that you are the CEO of the only MULTIDIMENSIONAL company, which is your mind. You either lead it on the path of fulfilment or destruction. If you can think it, you can be it. Just make sure it’s strong enough.

What do you think about chance? Do you believe that thinking is enough to achieve success? Your comments are welcome.

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Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Power, Purpose and Service
How to Identify Business Opportunities

Oct
11

You Need A Drive

“I will always prepare so that when my time comes, I will be ready.”
-Abraham Lincoln.

According to Physics, a body remains in a state of rest or uniform motion unless acted upon by a force. That is a law that has been in existence for quite a while now and it’s straightforward too. When you stand on a spot and are pushed, you no longer stay on that spot but move a step forward or backward.

I’ve always regarded that quote by Abe Lincoln as a powerful one. The strange thing is that I had seen the quote countless number of times but I didn’t value it until I needed it. A year before I went to the University, I was what you would regard as ‘premature’. I didn’t know my left from my right and had no idea what I wanted out of life.

Watching my mates go to school while I stayed at home for that whole year was really discouraging but I later realized that it was worth it. It was at this time that I sat down and did a lot of self-examination. I needed a lot of things to take along to the next level and one of them was a drive. That’s when that quote above became a really good friend. It applies to everything in life like relationships, death, career, marriage, wealth acquisition, business, academics and so much more. It talks about one thing, which is preparation and it has totally become a part of my life.

Choosing a drive can be tricky, especially if you don’t know where you’re headed in life. It’s just like a cab driver asking for your destination and you say, ‘anywhere’. He’s not going to waste his fuel on you.

Knowing where you’re going would help you choose the right vehicle, be it a car, minivan, chopper or jet. From experience, a drive should be chosen on the following two criteria.

1. It must be internal.
Choosing your spouse, girlfriend or money as your drive would only bring you back to square one in the end. Why? Well, they won’t be there forever. They’ll leave you one day and then what happens? You start searching for another one. The good thing about internal drives is that they stay with you until you die or you no longer have use for them. They are not influenced by external occurrences but by your final destination.

2. They should be derived from something you love or enjoy doing.
I found this quote from a book. Reading is a part of me and I’m never compelled or forced to do it. It’s just like being inspired or getting a feeling of satisfaction whenever you play the guitar or piano. Having a drive to help others achieve this same feeling would make the route to your destination simple.

It’s never too late to get a driving force. The most important thing is getting one and using it’s instructions to guide you. Whichever one you chose, just make sure that you’re ready to abide by its code of conduct. Feel free to use mine if you wish.

Do you have a drive? What other ways do you think a drive can be acquired? Let’s hear your thoughts, your comments are welcome.

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Ebooks you might want to check out:
Internalized Motivation
Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Power, Purpose and Service

Oct
03

What Should I Do With This Baby?

Hey, guess what? I’m PREGNANT, and with lots of babies too! There’s something I heard and learnt recently. Do you know that whenever a woman is pregnant, lots of things happen which are beyond normal human understanding? I didn’t know this and I bet you didn’t either. Read the following concept to know what I’m talking about.

During the early stages of conception, the development of the baby begins. It’s at this point that something very important is needed by this baby. It will need a SOUL. It so happens that all souls have been created since the beginning of time. Whenever the baby needs the breath of life to start its human activities like breathing, it attracts a soul from the ‘other realm’. The kind of soul it attracts is dependent on various factors like the kind of environment the baby is in, the mentality and character of the mother and the people around and most importantly, the spiritual standing of the parents.

I guess this is the reason most people find it hard to break away from the mentalities of their parents. This concept simply means two things; as an expectant mother, you’ve got to work on yourself and be careful about whom you move with.    

At one time or the other, we find ourselves pregnant with babies or ideas as the case may be. Most times, the idea is conceived but being delivered of it is not always the case. This is not always our intention but whenever it happens, we ask ourselves ‘why?’ The idea was so good, what could have possibly gone wrong? A lot of forces come to play here and it’s our duty to protect this innocent idea from such. How?

1. Work on yourself.
Sometimes, we have ideas that are way beyond our abilities to achieve, or so we think. Once, in secondary school, I had an idea that could change the way students related to the school head but I had to be the student head before I could implement it. At the time, it was beyond my ability. I got that position eventually, but I had to do a lot of self reforming to achieve this. If achieving this idea is what you want, then you’ve got to work on yourself while incubating the idea. If you have to read more, go on a diet or travel, do it. As long as it’s in line with your idea.

2. Don’t share it with just anyone.
Influence has a big role to play when it comes to bringing your ideas into reality. Telling the wrong person could terminate it. Associating with like-minded people who could be instrumental to its success would help your new ‘baby’ attract the right soul. In case you don’t know, people are watching you and like it or not, some are out to see you cry. Do yourself a favour and wait till it’s born before you go blabbing all about it.

You can’t hide an idea forever because just like pregnancy, it’ll show. It’s the early stages and foundation that matter. So, whenever you don’t know what to do with your new ‘baby’, just use this tip: guard it with your LIFE!

Why do you think lots of good ideas don’t get implemented?  There are lots of reasons. Your comments are most welcome.

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Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Power, Purpose and Service