achieve something that you have never achieved.”
- Lanre Solarin
For many months, you’ve been looking at this million dollar dream house in a magazine.
Then your dream comes true- you finally get the chance to see your house. When you enter the house for a quick survey, everything looks perfect at first. Then you get the goose pimples.
The house starts to look too big, too fine, too dreamy…
Too good to be true…
You then get scared and uncomfortable and the only thought running through your mind is, “Are you sure this house is meant for you? Do you deserve it? You don’t need it because you’re okay where you are. Your small apartment is just enough for your growing family. If you could manage up till now, you can still manage till you get another house.”
This was the same way I felt a few months ago. Only this time, I was about to take a trip.
I was used to a trip squashed in with 15 other passengers in a bus whose parts rattled at every bump on the road. Not to mention the smoking exhaust pipe.
Well, this time, I was in a car with few spaced out passengers, working seat belts and a DVD player for entertainment. All in one commercial vehicle. Wow!
But when I entered, my thoughts only made this statement- GET OUT NOW!
What was wrong with me?
Then it dawned on me….
I was stuck with traces of the Poverty Mentality.
And I bet many of you still are. This was something I thought I had gotten rid of. Well, I guess I hadn’t.
You want to do more, you want to be somebody….
You want to have more…
But for some reason, you can’t. This mentality comes like a thief in the night and attacks you using your closest ally- your thoughts. It creates the thin line between poverty and wealth and unless you know how to cross this line, you could remain on the losing side. So, how do you cross this line? First, you need to know just how this mentality creates that line.
1. It Makes You Settle For Less By Scaring You
“Don’t spend too much money. You can’t afford this, you can’t afford that.”
This is the thought that runs through your mind when you’re faced with spending money. Even though what you’re about to purchase has the potential of doubling your initial expenses, this mentality discourages you from doing it. You’re then left with the option of either purchasing nothing or buying something of low quality. This completely goes against the law of abundance.
To have abundance in your life, you first have to give something of value. The universe recycles this value and brings it back to you over and over. If what you’re about to buy is not just for satisfying unnecessary desires but has the ability to be valuable to you, I suggest you go for it.
Take action: Never make outrageous expenses! Also, making that valuable purchase and then living in fear afterwards won’t help you. Keep an open mind and believe that that value will come back to you. This way, you’ll activate the law of abundance in your life.
2. It Limits Your Actions By Blinding You
“Leave the job to those that can take the risk. You can’t afford to take this risk now because many things could go wrong. Other opportunities will come.”
The moment I decided to start providing my services to international clients, that thought popped into my head. I “saw the future” and was ready to take the necessary steps, but my thoughts wouldn’t let me. Well, the good thing is that I was ready for it and attacked that thought head on- Martial Art style.
How many opportunities have you missed?
Opportunities present themselves so we can gain/learn lessons from them. Those missed opportunities may never present themselves again. The good thing is that there will always be more opportunities.
Take action: You don’t have to take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way. Once you realize that an opportunity is in line with your goals and dreams, go for it! Let nothing stop you!
3. It Creates A Fake Reality By Lying To You
“Look at yourself. You have a family, a job, a house, food to eat and even a car. Hey! You’re even much better than the mechanic across the road. You’re perfect! What more could you want?”
At that moment, it won’t tell you that your paycheck is not enough to pay off your debts or that your house rent is due in a few days time. It won’t remind you about your expenses on car repairs or the fact that you eat what is available not what you want to eat. It leaves out the actual reality and encourages you with surface features.
Well, you’re not living the surface…you’re living the real thing.
I’m not telling you to get greedy or discontent. I’m totally against that. As long as you don’t feel completely comfortable with your present conditions, then you’re not yet living the reality you desire.
Take action: Always try to see the bigger picture. For every benefit or privilege you think you presently have, sit down and carefully assess each one. If your car is one of your benefits, simply ask yourself, “What are the actual benefits of having this car and in what way(s) is it taking/subtracting from me?” By weighing the pros and cons, you get a clearer picture, not a fuzzy one.
There’s one thing I’ve come to realize about this poverty mindset. The moment you overcome it once, it gets easier to deal with it at subsequent times. Why?
The answer is pretty simple- once you taste victory, you’ll want to have that sweet taste over and over again.
But the mentality never stops coming. And it toys with both parties- the poor and the rich. But remember, the way you deal with it determines the side of the line you stay.
So, did I finally take the trip in the car? Sure! After reaching my destination, I didn’t want to get out :-). It was that bad……or good.
Has this kind of mentality manifested itself in your life before? How did you deal with it? And how are you dealing with it?
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
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